Monthly Archives: April 2011

Articulation of Feelings Is Not the Same as Venting

In the last post, I pointed out the importance of clarifying and expressing your feelings of distress. Understanding how you feel about a distressing situation and expressing it in a safe context can make you feel better and stay healthier.

For years many in the mental health field have encouraged people to blow off steam, let out their anger, and get things off their chest. It was a model that implied that, when we are upset, we are like a boiler that is overheated, and that will blow up if it does not release some of the pressure. But humans are much more complex than boilers. Continue reading

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Control Distress By Understanding and Expressing Yourself

In this post, I want to discuss the third factor we identified in our research on personal resilience. It involves two things: Attending to and clarifying your feelings about distressing experiences. Expressing those clarified feelings in a safe way that … Continue reading

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Anticipate, Prepare, and Practice, Practice, Practice.

This post is about the power of anticipating risks and preparing for them through practice. Earlier we discussed a major study of what leads to success in life. The study tracked Harvard students from ¬†youth to old age in order … Continue reading

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