Our core purpose at OnResilience is to explain how and why you should train to be more resilient. We want to help people learn techniques that can help them get through difficult situations and come out able to at least stay in the game, and maybe also having learned things that make them more effective in handling difficulties to come.
Debbie and I both know from published research, our own personal experiences, and our work as trainers and therapists that the techniques we teach will help most people to deal more effectively with painful, threatening situations .
A fortunate few can get benefits from just a few training sessions. But most people need more help, and, especially, more practice than that. However, it is safe to say that no one who neglects practice will reach their potential even if they are in the above-mentioned “fortunate few”.
Why do so many people fail to practice resilience-inducing procedures?
A possible reason is that people in technically advanced parts of the world have become accustomed to treatments that require little effort. Most of us have gotten prescriptions that quickly relieved us of distressing diseases, and we may tend now to expect a quick, almost effortless resolution to any of our problems. The old Alka-Seltzer line, “Relief is just a swallow away”, says it all.
That “take a pill” model is usually not a good one for making changes in the way the mind, or, if you prefer, the brain, influences the body. Nor does it work particularly well if we need to maneuver our way through complicated situations, such as a troubled marriage. In these situations, many factors influence what happens, and these factors may include some that can be influenced by chemicals, but we are far from having pills, injections, or surgical procedures that do much to turn complex situations from bad to good.
For the most part, neither can listening to a lecture or two, or practicing mind-body techniques a few times.
To get the most out of resilience training you need “practice, practice, and practice”.
But many, many people just do not see any room in their available time to fit practice in.
Both Debbie and I have “been there and done that”. We understand how hard it can be to find the time and energy to practice.
So, granting that we have to practice in order to see what resilience techniques can really do to make our lives better, how much practice is required?
Malcolm Gladwell in his best-selling book, “Outliers” concluded that mastering a skill requires practicing 10,000 times. Fortunately, in the video below, the speaker makes a case for 20 practice sessions as enough to reach the modest goals most of us set for ourselves.
Gladwell has been a brilliant commentator on life, but this encouraging video should help those of you who cannot fit that much practice into the stream of your life. It deals with people who, like most of us, are not aiming for goals that would make us world champions, but, rather for goals that make our lives better and, perhaps goals that make us stand out as notably good at what we are trying to do.
Watch the video for encouraging information on what you can gain from fairly modest effort.